Why a Bitch?
I have never understood why a strong assertive and powerful woman is called a Bitch. Furthermore, when a Woman discloses about snuggles in her life then she can be labeled a complainer or a victim. Now skip to 2020, we're looking to each other to figure out what it is to be a woman.
First look at our bodies and what they can do! We can create life, how incredible is that!. Times are different, we have choices. The modern woman is smart, driven, can multitask, ladies we're fabulous.
One thing about women is our ability to connect. We share the intimate details of our life with friends. It's strange that know it doesn't matter how smart and successful we become, we have this nagging self doubt and inferiority. WHY? Am I enough? Am I worthy? Why do so many woman and girls struggle with lack of confidence. and self esteem
Is there a difference between self confidence and self esteem? Self esteem is about the overall evaluation ( either positive or negative) you have on yourself ,while self confidence is the belief in your abilities to succeed in various tasks of your life. So both a inter-related characteristic's of a person. ( this is what the dictionary said, lol!) I remember reading this " confidence is the stuff that turns thoughts into action". I can't remember who wrote this but it always stuck with me. Or maybe it was my mom. She always came up with stuff like that.
If we look at history, as woman have had to fight for equality. Think of the centuries that woman were taught to be silent, stay at home, remain uniformed., obey the rules, listen to your husband , Oh and my favourite is play nice. ( ie the bitch). Plus you must take care of others at the expense of your own self . Fight to Vote, burn our Bra's. Thank god for Gloria Steinem. " the truth will set you free but it will first piss you off. I remember reading about the freedom trash can. Throw out your Bras ,lipstick, high heels and mops. Sure throw the mop, but the rest I like and will keep. Now woman are in the work force and are still the primary caregivers to children and our husbands. I am exhausted just writing this. This nutty legacy has made it difficult for any person to feel confident.
So think of Gloria Steinem and all the incredible woman in 1968.
I guess it all comes down to self esteem. So many woman have issues with self worth and therefor low self confidence. Where does this come from and how can we change this? I can say as a woman, I have been constantly evolving. I always wanted to be a mother and have three amazing children. I put my heart and soul into being the best mother that I could be. I went to parenting classes, joined parent groups, member of the PTA. I drove kids around in my red van, I could get six kids in that van. My superpower was being a mom. So kids grow up and they didn't need me.. My superpower is now irrelevant. I think at times we feel we go invisible , until we figure out our what comes next.
Think of any major decision we make. We talk to family and friends till they want to choke us. Why do we need people to validate our wants and needs? For some strange reason we need to be heard. When I am heard I feel validated.
I have wanted to do this blog for years. But in the back of my mind I was always thinking "how will this be perceived". Who might be offended? Will I be judged? Then there is " How will my actions impact the people around me. I bet you my husband never has these thoughts .
We as woman keep waiting for someone else to hand us our confidence. But the truth is we've had it all along. Its just been hiding under the self-doubt. Life can be scared and we can be brilliant. When I am nervous I get a twitch in my right eye. So I pinch my leg to stop it. So of I step out of my comfort zone and take action, with this I show my insecure self I am strong!
What I have come to learn is that the only one holding me back is me. Everyone of us can take this world by storm, It starts by self love. So many of us don't know and how to love who we are." I have been there and will be there again. For me it manifests in anxiety. So working on yourself is so important. Counselling is a good option. My therapist calls its "buy a friend." If we can shift our inner being , maybe our world can shift as well.
A Confident woman can change the world. We can have lots of ideas and passions, but to execute them takes confidence. A Confident woman can make changes, remove perfection and jealousy. We do not need to compete against each other,. We must build each other up.to move forward in this world. Nothing is impossible, I tell myself this every day. I might not have the confidence that I should, but soon I WILL.
This is just my thought process of coming into middle age. I am a work in progress. Would love your thoughts.
Bonnie
First look at our bodies and what they can do! We can create life, how incredible is that!. Times are different, we have choices. The modern woman is smart, driven, can multitask, ladies we're fabulous.
One thing about women is our ability to connect. We share the intimate details of our life with friends. It's strange that know it doesn't matter how smart and successful we become, we have this nagging self doubt and inferiority. WHY? Am I enough? Am I worthy? Why do so many woman and girls struggle with lack of confidence. and self esteem
Is there a difference between self confidence and self esteem? Self esteem is about the overall evaluation ( either positive or negative) you have on yourself ,while self confidence is the belief in your abilities to succeed in various tasks of your life. So both a inter-related characteristic's of a person. ( this is what the dictionary said, lol!) I remember reading this " confidence is the stuff that turns thoughts into action". I can't remember who wrote this but it always stuck with me. Or maybe it was my mom. She always came up with stuff like that.
If we look at history, as woman have had to fight for equality. Think of the centuries that woman were taught to be silent, stay at home, remain uniformed., obey the rules, listen to your husband , Oh and my favourite is play nice. ( ie the bitch). Plus you must take care of others at the expense of your own self . Fight to Vote, burn our Bra's. Thank god for Gloria Steinem. " the truth will set you free but it will first piss you off. I remember reading about the freedom trash can. Throw out your Bras ,lipstick, high heels and mops. Sure throw the mop, but the rest I like and will keep. Now woman are in the work force and are still the primary caregivers to children and our husbands. I am exhausted just writing this. This nutty legacy has made it difficult for any person to feel confident.
So think of Gloria Steinem and all the incredible woman in 1968.
I guess it all comes down to self esteem. So many woman have issues with self worth and therefor low self confidence. Where does this come from and how can we change this? I can say as a woman, I have been constantly evolving. I always wanted to be a mother and have three amazing children. I put my heart and soul into being the best mother that I could be. I went to parenting classes, joined parent groups, member of the PTA. I drove kids around in my red van, I could get six kids in that van. My superpower was being a mom. So kids grow up and they didn't need me.. My superpower is now irrelevant. I think at times we feel we go invisible , until we figure out our what comes next.
Think of any major decision we make. We talk to family and friends till they want to choke us. Why do we need people to validate our wants and needs? For some strange reason we need to be heard. When I am heard I feel validated.
I have wanted to do this blog for years. But in the back of my mind I was always thinking "how will this be perceived". Who might be offended? Will I be judged? Then there is " How will my actions impact the people around me. I bet you my husband never has these thoughts .
We as woman keep waiting for someone else to hand us our confidence. But the truth is we've had it all along. Its just been hiding under the self-doubt. Life can be scared and we can be brilliant. When I am nervous I get a twitch in my right eye. So I pinch my leg to stop it. So of I step out of my comfort zone and take action, with this I show my insecure self I am strong!
What I have come to learn is that the only one holding me back is me. Everyone of us can take this world by storm, It starts by self love. So many of us don't know and how to love who we are." I have been there and will be there again. For me it manifests in anxiety. So working on yourself is so important. Counselling is a good option. My therapist calls its "buy a friend." If we can shift our inner being , maybe our world can shift as well.
A Confident woman can change the world. We can have lots of ideas and passions, but to execute them takes confidence. A Confident woman can make changes, remove perfection and jealousy. We do not need to compete against each other,. We must build each other up.to move forward in this world. Nothing is impossible, I tell myself this every day. I might not have the confidence that I should, but soon I WILL.
This is just my thought process of coming into middle age. I am a work in progress. Would love your thoughts.
Bonnie